Big subject! Something we can all relate to. However, it was one of the prompts I left for later. I was afraid of it. Ha ha ha
We all have our fears. Some are unfounded, fear of the unknown, which will most likely not be as scary as we think.
Some fears are based upon previous experiences. One of mine is the dentist! Eek! I know I’m not alone, but sometimes I know it’s a bit irrational, more like a phobia. Nevertheless, it is there. Past experience as a child has fuelled it, and no matter how much ‘better’ the experience is now than back then, the fear does not abate. In fact, I’m having anxiety just writing about it.
So, a change of subject is in order.
Some fears are well founded and can provide protection in potentially dangerous situations. For example: Fear of bodily harm from straying too close to the edge of a cliff keeps us back far enough, or cautious enough to check the stability of the ground we are standing on, so as to keep from falling.
Other fears, while somewhat overvalued, as in the case of snakes and spiders (my apologies to those arachnophobes amongst us), can bring caution when walking in wilderness areas or working in wood piles or the like. After all, there are some poisonous varieties which can cause harm.
For an unfortunate few, fear can become all encompassing. Life for them is severely restricted and unenjoyable for all the fearful things that are around them, and could potentially harm. For these I am truly sympathetic. For, once fear gets a hold of us, we can easily succumb to its bite. (Sorry for the unsympathetic pun…I just couldn’t stop)
I also applaud those who put in serious work to overcome their fears.
Courage! That’s what is needed to overcome many things, fear likely being the biggest. The courage to stand up and say, “yes! I am afraid! But I will do it anyway.”
Quite often our fears are worse than the consequence of the proposed action. Unless it’s some extreme sporting activity or a course of action that others have warned us about, knowing it is too dangerous.
Our average fears are mostly ones we can work with to, at the very least, minimize or perhaps in time eliminate altogether. Such as a fear of the dentist. I do go, albeit not as regularly as I perhaps should, and deal with the fear. And no, it’s not really better, I just take something to cope, most recently essential oils which work to calm me without the effects of drugs. A subject for another day!
Fear, whether good (as a deterrent) or bad, warranted or imagined, is a part of all of us. Our fears may not be the same as someone else’s, however, we can bond and be empathetic of the fears of others, knowing it’s a part of life.
Writers can identify with the fear of publishing. The fear that those who read our work will laugh and say we’re dumb, stupid or that it’s just garbage.
Our self esteem, or ego if you will, is involved. We put much of ourselves in what we write so what our readers think of it can affect us deeply.
Of course, we understand what we write isn’t for everyone. So in that case, respect of our work and our opinions is enough. We don’t like every piece of art or music either. The arts are all much like that.
So, if you’re still reading and following, I am grateful and humbled you appreciate my work enough to continue. Perhaps you feel a little camaraderie, or just supporting me in friendship.
I’ll take that. With thanks!